PRAYER IS POWER

My faith was tested on 28 January 2006, the day I lost my mom.

It was a Saturday morning when I suddenly heard my sister calling for help, when I ran over to see
what was happening. Then the thing I feared most, my mom, it couldn’t be, no, wait, she just looks
tired. She steadily looked at me as I held her hand, not sure what to do, I just said its going to be ok
mom I’ll get help, you’ll be fine. I then desperately ran over to get my husband and after 1 minute,
when I returned, there she was, her eyes closed, her body lifeless. When the emergency unit arrived,
they tried to revive her, but nothing. It all happened so fast! It was the worst thing that ever
happened to me. I screamed! Sobbed! But she was gone forever.

I remember feeling so angry, lonely, empty and regretful. I’ve lost my purpose for life and regretted
not being the daughter I could’ve been. I remember feeling angry at myself for not spending enough
time with her, not always being there when she needed me. I could’ve done more!
The following Saturday after her funeral, being in my house just felt cold and miserable. We couldn’t
bear the pain of losing mom, it was extremely difficult at first.
I knew that there was a reason why she had to leave so suddenly. She suffered no illness at all but
she was lonely because in July 2004 my dad passed on. I prayed to God to ease the pain and
suffering of losing her. I yearned to see her one more time, to touch her skin, to hold her hand and
to just lay my head on her shoulder for another day. I could hardly breathe, my heart was heavy and then
I went into depression and I knew that it was the feeling of anger, regret and sorrow.

As I prayed and asked God for comfort and strength, it became more bearable. I realized then that
God hears the prayers of a broken heart and heals that which no man can.
A few months later I had a dream about her where she was walking tall holding my sister’s hand over
a pedestrian crossing. She looked happy and on the go as she once was. That dream meant
everything to me. On another occasion a few years later, still feeling the emptiness and longing to
feel her nearness, I was walking down the passage in our house and suddenly heard her voice
whispering my name.

I still encounter her presence and give thanks to God for revealing her to me as that is as significant
to me as the memories I had with her.
My reason for writing this story is to tell you that it takes time to heal. That God knows our pain and
sorrow. He carries us through difficult times and we only have to put our complete trust in Him. The
loneliness, anger and regret faded. I became whole again and I learned to appreciate more, live for
now and put God first. Prayer is power, it is our way of communicating with God and through this my
emotional needs are fulfilled.
Today 15 years ago she was called home.

Written 28 January 2021

Here are a few of my favorite things that I absolutely love! Simple and basic things that might steer you into the direction of what to get your lady or best friend for Christmas or any day!

So these items are my everyday kind of items that gives me that boost of confidence – even at the beach or a trip to the shopping mall! And some extra for your home, try it – You’ll love it!

The Badgirl Uptown Ladies Sunglasses will give you the feels into holiday mode whether you’re out to shopping or a day out to the beach.

The Marique Yssel Leggings Black is the ultimate in leisure wear! Soft and stretchy in beautiful natural fibre Cotton Spandex. Very comfortable to wear and the fabric is breathable and not static – wearable through all seasons.

Dash into summer with this nice crotchet Blackcherry Beige Fishing Net Shoulder Bag. It’s stylish and makes a statement when you step out on an evening out.

The Rimmel Lasting Finish Lipstick in Amethyst Shimmer is super easy to apply, staying for up to 8 hours on your lips. 25% high colour impact. Smooth creamy texture for comfortable wear all day long. The only challenge though, Wearing your mask will hide the look completely, but hey, you’ll have to take some selfies right?

The Summer Sun Straw hats are very good quality straw hats with an adjustable band inside. It has a wide brim with “do not disturb” embroidered into the straw. The hat size fits all and lounging around the swimming pool or at the beach will send a clear message! LOL!

Since the very first time I bought this perfume, I never looked back. Paco Rabanne Lady Million was created by the house of Paco Rabanne with perfumer Anne Flipo and released in 2014. A wonderful edition to the Lady Million fragrance collection. A tropical fruity floral perfume that is certainly a winner. Still one of my top favorite perfumes!

The Blomus Scented Candle will turn your living room into an oasis of wellbeing. It creates a delightfully relaxed atmosphere with its Soft Linen fragrance.
The characteristic concrete look in a velvety, dark grey tone gives the lightly scented candle a unique touch. The perfect gift for someone you care about.

I hope you enjoyed my Blog post and feel free to comment or like! Seasons greetings and Stay safe!


my favorite items this holiday season

AUGUST BEAUTY PICKS

Face masks are the perfect skin care treatment to help you with your skin care concerns. The right face mask can help hydrate skin, remove excess oils and help improve the appearance of your pores. They’re also an excellent way to help pull out impurities.

Recently I tried the  Skin Republic 2 Step Double Action and I was surprised to see that The brightening and radiance enhancing serum helps reduce the appearance of age spots and imperfections for a bright and even skin tone and leaving me with a soft and fresh look.

For the longest time I’ve had dry lips and always have to use a lip balm or some kind of protection so that it stops me from pulling or biting on the dry skin, which I know is quite gross. I’ve come across this intensely hydrating and replenishing Lip Moisturiser that is based on Organic Royal Jelly, Shear Butter, Mango Butter, Ginseng and Sweet Orange Essential Oil. The sweet fragrant lip serum is formulated with nourishing ingredients to penetrate and condition the delicate lip area and create a barrier to protect against seasonal elements. It offers intensive
hydration and antioxidant protection to lips, helping restore suppleness and preserve the healthy appearance of the skin. You should try it and thank me later!

If you love to have your nails done you will love the Morgan Taylor Professional Nail Lacquer. It gives you an instant salon look and glamorous feel. Morgan Taylor is globally recognized as the crème de la crème of nail color, developed by professionals for you. Their unique color palette knows no bounds, ranging from the classical to avant-garde, and from subtle to unconditionally spectacular. Experience the Morgan Taylor brand. Embrace the colors. Become a part of their world.

Batiste Dry Shampoo is a specially formulated hair refresher with a classic fragrance that helps to remove excess grease and leave your hair feeling and looking clean, fresh and full of body and texture.

Three steps to fabulous hair:
1. Shake can, hold 30 cm from dry hair and spray into roots
2. Massage through with fingertips
3. Brush hair and style as usual

CHILDHOOD MEMORIES

For many of us, our childhood is something we reflect on with the fondest of memories. Isn’t it strange to think that some of our most treasured possessions aren’t physical possessions at all?

Of course we might have photographs, but the real joy is in the memory itself. Something which lives only in our minds.

When I look back at my childhood, there is so much I could talk about and so many memories but when I stop and think about what I treasure the most from it, it isn’t just one memory, it was more of a way of life. 

The bulk of my childhood memories are in a loving home with my four sisters and brother, mom and dad. I am the youngest of six siblings and loved playing outside with friends and anyone who were up for a afternoon of hide and seek, hopscotch, tipcat, skipping rope, netball, softball, handmade scrabble, puzzles, 3 Tins, etc, I’m sure my homies can relate.

All of those things contain beautiful memories, but what I love and miss the most, is just that we were raised to simply BE.

That just waking up in the morning was a blessing. That your day doesn’t have to be packed with activities for you to feel productive or fulfilled. We learned how to entertain ourselves because mom and dad never gave us something to do when we said we were bored…they just sent us outside.

Outside the best and favorite childhood memories took form. I can close my eyes right now and I immediately, with a deep breath, can remember laying on my back on the grass staring at the sky and seeing the clouds forming in little puppies or smiley faces. I remember laying on my back staring at the sky, day dreaming all the time. At night I would stare at the starry skies and watch the shooting stars appear far more than I could ever dream of! It really did! It brought my soul such peace. 

I remember breathing so calmly and so deeply, feeling such a peace when it was me and the great outdoors.

Fast Forward to being a busy mom of two, I am still such a dreamer. When I’m not editing images or cooking dinner or writing a blog, you can often find me staring out of a window, lost in thought, lost in dreams. It’s in those moments, that I remember the finest moments of my childhood. That there were no expectations and no pressure. I didn’t have a lot of friends, so therefore, I never dealt with friends being mean or not accepting me.

My dad worked a 9 to 5 job and for the most part my mom was a stay home hardworking caregiver who taught me most of my skills I have today. As a family, we loved watching our favorite movies, cook and spend time together.

Growing up as the youngest of six siblings I was protected from the rush of the world and it kind of felt like I was living in a bubble. Carefree, happy impulsive and just being me and I loved every minute of it.

“SOMETIMES I WISH TO HAVE A TIME MACHINE TO GO BACK IN MY CHILDHOOD AND CAPTURE ALL MY MEMORIES”

Life lessons | What people think of you

Is it a good idea to care what people think of you?

Social anxiety disorder (also called social phobia) is a mental health condition. It is an intense, persistent fear of being watched and judged by others. … But social anxiety disorder doesn’t have to stop you from reaching your potential.

As long as you don’t lose sight of yourself. But if you think you do place too much value trying to please others, then it’s time to turn the focus on strengthening your sense of self.

For as long as I can remember I believed that caring about what people think and say about you is very important but truth be told there’s two sides to this perception.

Why you shouldn’t care about people’s opinions

It can prevent you from living your life, because your entire being (your personality, your thoughts, your actions) are controlled by an idealized standard of what people want to see. When you become so obsessed with other people’s opinion of you, you forget your own.

Follow These Practical Ways to Not Care What Other People Think

  • Remember that the negative comments someone makes is about them, not you.
    • Putting yourself out there is hard. It can be brutal. You could be the most talented, entertaining, sweetest soul on Earth and still be confronted with negative comments. No one is immune. Whether it’s a video posted, an article published, a piece of art created, even a single idea shared, anything can warrant a negative response in this day and age of strong opinions and anonymous digital presence, how you deal with it is entirely up to you.
  • Be true to yourself
    • When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up, and it’s okay not to be okay.
  • This is your one life
    • Being in touch with what you want and what matters to you helps you prioritize, develop goals and ultimately get where you want to go. Discover what you truly want by asking yourself, “what really lights me up?, what matters to me? Allow yourself to think freely as you answer these questions instead of getting caught up in what you think you should be doing or what others would like for you to do.
  • Remove sources of negativity, immediately
    • With all the responsibilities that rest on my shoulders as a mom, wife and entrepreneur, I’ve learned that I must constantly delete negativity from my life. While it hasn’t been easy to pull off, making the conscious decision to remove negativity from my life has definitely been worth it. My health has improved tremendously and I’ve been able to focus on what’s really important in my life.
  • Focus on being in the moment
    • Be present in your own life. All you have is this moment so don’t let it slip away. Given the fast pace and hectic schedules most of us keep, a base level of anxiety, stress and unhappiness is the new norm. We may not even realize it but this tendency to get sucked into the pas and the future can leave us worn out and feeling out of touch with ourselves.
  • Think about why you care
    • If you care, it’s more likely to mean that you respect their opinion and view point, and that you’ll consider and review it, but still choose to go your own way. However, if you worry all the time, this takes it a whole lot further and can soon affect your decision making. You may become a people pleaser who listens to every opinion but your own, which, in the long term, can chip away at your self-belief.

LOOK FOR SOMETHING POSITIVE IN EACH DAY EVEN IF SOME DAYS YOU HAVE TO LOOK A LITTLE HARDER

A FEW OF MY BEAUTY PICKS

  1. NIVEA PERFECT & RADIANT MICELLAR 3 IN 1 CLEANSING WATER

This ‘go to’ product is a must have for make-up users and it is also very gentle.

Micellar water like Nivea Perfect & Radiant Micellar Water is a cleanser that contains micelles, these suspended surfactant molecules are hydrophilic and oleophilic meaning they attract water, oil and the dirt that comes with them which then combined with a cotton pad or wipe work to remove stubborn make-up.

You might ask what are Micelles?

Micelles are virtually invisible concentrated molecules that are both ‘water-loving’ and ‘fat-loving’. This means they can remove dirt which is water-soluble and fat-soluble because they are naturally attracted to oil and water based substances.

  1. EPIMAX Cream Emollient Moisturiser

I’ve been using the Epimax Cream Moisturiser daily for 2-3 weeks now and it has been the solution to my dry skin. It has a soft creamy texture and it is fragrance & colourant free.

It’s a pure cetomacrogol and glycerine emollient cream for all skin types and dry conditions, including eczema and psoriasis. It can be used as a soap substitute. 

Epimax® tested cream emollient moisturiser for all skin types. Hypo-allergenic, fragrance and colourant free with Cetomacrogol and glycerine 400g.

  1. LORéAL PARIS MAGIC RETOUCH

The first time I discovered LORéal Paris Magic Retouch I celebrated, since it was the end of my grey hair days.

This Instant Root Concealer Spray perfectly blends with your hair colour, offering temporary grey coverage. With quick-drying cover in seconds, it will last until you shampoo your hair again. The colour comes in Dark blonde, Light blonde, Dark brown, Brown and Black.

  1. Bio-Oil Skincare Oil

The main reason why I like Bio Oil Skincare Oil is that it has a non-greasy texture and can be used on the face and body due to the Vitamin A in the product.

Bio Oil is particularly famed for its ability to tackle scars, stretch marks, dry skin, uneven skin tone and other skin imperfections. According to the official Bio Oil website, the product is suitable for all skin types and ‘promotes healthy, radiant skin’.

Bio Oil skincare Oil helps improve the appearance of both new and old scars. It helps reduce the possibility of stretch marks forming during pregnancy. It helps improve the appearance of uneven skin tone in both light and dark skin types and smooth, tone ageing and wrinkled skin on both the face and body and helps retain moisture.

  1. Sanex Shower Gel

Of all the shower gels I’ve tried over the years Sanex Dermo Pro Hydrate Shower Cream is the best product for my dry skin concerns. As my skin mature it needs more moisture and hydration.

It offers deep moisturisation, improves your skin’s protective barrier and restores your skin’s natural ph. Sanex shower cream is a shower and bath gel that keep skin soft and healthy.

Is Face Brushing good for you?

Using a facial cleansing brush sounds a bit harsh if you haven’t used it yet, but the fact is that it has plenty of benefits and you’ll be amazed to know what it does for your skin.

Generally speaking, it’s important to use a facial brush with soft bristles. Always use soft, delicate strokes on your face and never pull or use force when brushing.

The Benefits are Endless

Here are a few of my favourites:

  • Smooths fine lines and brightens appearance
  • Reduces puffiness and dark circles
  • Tones and firms skin and improves skin tone
  • Gently exfoliates and stimulates cellular turnover

How to use it:

DECOLLETE – Brush towards your lymph area from shoulders inwards.

NECK – Brush upwards towards the chin and ears. Brush lightly in short strokes to help firm the skin.

CHIN – Use inverted U strokes on chin area.

CHEEKS – Make circular motions up and outwards and then back to where you started.

UPPER LIP – Start in the center and lightly brush outwards, to the left on your left side and from the middle to your right on the right side.

NOSE – Make small circular motions on your nose tip, then move lightly up your nose to the middle of brow area.

EYE AREA – I prefer to avoid the eye area as the skin around eyes is generally very thin.

FOREHEAD – Start in the middle move right on the right side and left on your left side.

You will find Facial Cleansing brushes at many stores who sells skincare products.

Here’s two types

Safeway_4-in-1-facebrush

The Safeway 4-in-1 Face & Body Brush brings you indulgent skin care for face and body. Perfect for exfoliating away dead cells to reveal softer, smoother skin and improving the efficacy of your skin care products.

REDECKER FACE BRUSH SOFT BEECH 14.5CM

Redecker Soft Facebrush

Mushroom & Egg Recipe

Lunch provides energy and nutrients to keep the body and brain working through the afternoon. According to experts, lunch provides nourishment to the body and brain and reduces stress and eating lunch provides a break from the activities of the day and gives energy for the rest of the afternoon.

This quick delicious recipe calls for a mouthwatering appetite and consist of;

INGREDIENTS

  • Crushed garlic, chili & ginger
  • Mixed peppers
  • Mixed Veggies
  • Mushrooms
  • Egg
  • Spinach
  • Paprika
  • Cracker Bread

METHOD

  • Braise the Crushed garlic, chili & ginger in a tsp olive oil
  • Cut peppers according to your choice and add to the braised garlic mix
  • Add a handful of sliced mushrooms and fry for 5 minutes
  • Add the mix vegetables & spinach – let it steam for about 10 minutes
  • Lastly add the egg and then add a pinch of salt & paprika
  • Close the lid and let it simmer for about 3 minutes
  • Enjoy on cracker bread or wholewheat toast